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We employ you to ask yourself a few questions before coming to your conclusion: What challenges are you willing to deal with in your relationship? Why did he cheat? Outside of the cheating incident, how was the relationship? Is taking him back worth it?
People cheat for many reasons and while your partner betrayed your trust with his scandalous rendezvous, and there is no excuse for that behavior, you have to ask yourself what role you played in the situation. Before you all jump to conclusions and condemn us for blaming the victim, hear us out. More often than not, both parties share at least some responsibility when there is infidelity on either’s part. Whether it is neglect, lack of intimacy, the failure to listen, or the failure to be heard, etc., one is typically seeking that which his/her partner lacks when this type of behavior occurs.
Again, your partner should have never cheated, but you must dig deeper to try and discover what the real issue was. If it’s one of those rare cases where the relationship was perfect and he just couldn’t keep his penis in his pants, well then you must ask yourself if that is something you are willing to deal with because chances are he won’t change. But if it isn’t, this is a chance to redefine the parameters of your relationship and start anew. Who knows, maybe you’ll discover a new side of you and him!
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