Positively Beautiful:

Living a life driven by vitality and not morbidity

+Guy Anthony

 “To err is human; to forgive, divine.”

Alexander Pope

 Forgive Yourself:

 As an openly HIV positive man, I’ve grown to understand the importance of using positive affirmations to uplift yourself. This past year I wrote my first book entitled Pos+tively Beautiful: A Book of Affirmations, Advice & Advocacy and I hadn’t realized how broken I was until I attempted to write the very first sentence of the first chapter. I, like so many of us, had been in denial about who I was and what I stood for because past hurts continued to linger.  Outwardly, I was an immensely jovial, well-groomed and in-control young man but inwardly, I suffered more than you would ever believe.  I suffered because I had not forgiven myself for the past mistakes I had made.  I forgave my molesters, I forgave the man who raped me at 19 and I even forgave my father for abandoning me but I simply could not forgive the man in the mirror.

After seeking therapy for the demons I harbored, my therapist introduced me to the notion of using positive affirmations as an effective way of self-preservation and self-forgiveness. Although we only met for a total of five 1-hour sessions, he was able to change my way of thinking by reaffirming what I already knew about myself.  Since our brains really only recognize the present, he recommended I use present-tense affirmations like, “I AM Strong, I AM Worth it, I AM Fearless & I am Wise”. Believe it or not, these simple yet often used affirmations began to change my life. Why? Because I said them with great emotion and passion but mainly because I desperately wanted to believe I was these things.  I began using these affirmations daily to combat the depression and negative thoughts that constantly haunted me. My outlook on my past changed and I was finally able to write the very first line of the first chapter of not just my book but my future.

I pose this question to you, why do you believe it’s easier to forgive others but not ourselves?

Comments (1)

  • Robert Cecil Brooks III

    Hey Guy,

    I think we usually tend to forgive others instead of ourselves because we live in a patriarchal society that depends us to want and “Feel” the need of being accepted. He have over time allowed these oppressive thoughts take over our conscious thoughts, so that it presents itself subconsciously. We are our greatest fear, because we do not have consistent people near us who spark change in us. We stay right in places that leave no room for change or discomfort, yet rather stay in the comfort of no progression and depression.

    I in the past have handle onto pain, rather yet I am embracing it and allowing time to pass along with it as I vet my thoughts there everyday life.


    Robert Cecil Brooks
    Brand Ambassador | Facilitator
    Bronx Mpowerment

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